You’ll never be in an unsure space or gray area when dating an older man because they have neither the time nor the inclination to play games.Dating an older man also means that there’s more than a modicum of stability and more than simply a “chance” for future talks and long-term commitment.(It will never be exactly the same for two different people.) Assess Your Proclivity for Indulgences While many behaviors in the extreme form represent a problem or even an addiction, some of those same behaviors can be harmless if not taken to the extreme.Consider a list of activities that fall on the hedonistic end of the behavioral spectrum: drinking alcohol, gambling, shopping, traveling, and spending, for example.In fact, it is exactly what make these men so focused in pursuing their significant other that can make them equally as intentional and focused when it comes to planning for and talking about a serious relationship and its future.An older man and younger woman relationship can work wonders for women who are looking for men who will stay present with them, who are calm and stable and who have spent time building their lives independently.I’ve heard so many different rules about dating someone older, and they all boil down to a magic number: “Don’t date anyone more than ten years older,” or “Marriages never work if there’s more than fifteen years’ difference.” People love rules, telling themselves that abiding by them will cause them to get hurt less. The most important rule to follow is a general one: Make sure the two of you have the same goals for the relationship and for your daily life together. Think about whether you want to get married; have a big or tiny wedding; have children; be with someone who already has kids; live in the future in the same town or city where you’ve been dating; move somewhere far or close; have extended family very involved or not very involved in your life; have a relationship where you socialize almost always together or often; have a partner who’s more of a social butterfly or homebody; and have a partner who is very involved or not very involved in extracurricular activities. Psychological Age You’ve probably heard someone say, “He seems young for his age,” or “She’s so young at heart.” Though we all have a chronological age, we also have what I refer to as a ‘psychological age.’ How old do you feel, for example? In addition, ask yourself what the psychological age is of your prospective older partner. Again, use those early months of a relationship to gauge whether your sexualities are congruent enough. Don’t embrace any rigid rule about age differences. Don’t be fooled into thinking that just because someone is older, he or she isn’t very sexual.
You’re not going to a get a true picture about someone’s lifestyle in a month; give yourself a few months of dating to make sure that you’ve seen him or her in as many real-life situations as possible.In the end, falling in love with someone significantly older can be one of the most rewarding experiences in your life – or one of the most frustrating.Though compatibility factors are important for any relationship, the stakes are even higher for relationships with major age discrepancies.Straightforward and assertive, older men act with intention and focus because they’re usually busy living thriving lives with great jobs they’re passionate about.
They’ve spent enough time in the dating world to know exactly what they like and what turns them off.When a younger woman finds the right older man for her, these foundations can make for a soulmate type of love match.