Make a Move In your initial e-mail to a potential partner, it's crucial to indicate that you've read his profile and took an interest in it.According to Ok Trends, the top three phrases in initial e-mails with the highest response rate are "you mention," "good taste" and "noticed that." So, describe something that resonated with you from his profile, advises Spira, but avoid physical compliments because "they seem too clichéd." And keep it brief: Ok Trends found that the ideal first message length is only 200 characters, or one minute's worth of typing for the average writer.You need to show your interest right away; in the world of online dating you never know how many women one man has contacted, and how quickly the others may express their interest.If you contact someone and haven't heard back in a week, it's OK to send a second e-mail.The shortest messages get the best response rate; the reply rate goes down as messages get longer.This is likely because an initial message serves mostly to make your profile available to the other person.While the pictures you post should be clear—giving the viewer an accurate glimpse of what you really look like—don't completely discount self-taken shots (the ones where you hold out your camera to take your own portrait).Ok Trends, the data-analysis blog for the dating website Ok Cupid.com, says that self-shot photos can actually be very effective in attracting partners, most likely because they are approachable, casual and make the viewer feel close to the subject—all good things! Your Profile Your goal should be to create an engaging profile that piques people's interest and makes them want to know more about you.
"If you play games and wait to get back to him, he may have already run off into the sunset with someone else," says Spira.
Dating is complicated enough on its own; when you add in the confusion of online dating sites, it can be just plain intimidating. There is a technique to navigating the virtual playing field.