This will take the pressure off of you and get the two of you talking.
Wearing a shirt or hat with your college name, carrying an eclectic handbag, wearing an interesting watch or bracelet, or pulling out your cell phone with a custom/interesting case are all ways to distract the focus from you.
As long as you start talking about things you care about, you’ll be a lot more relaxed – and a whole lot less shy.
Yet overcoming shyness isn’t just about learning tricks to use to start conversation.
My final reminder is that nothing breaks the ice quite like plain old honesty, so don’t be shy – ahem – about telling your new date that you’ve had the shy bug for years.One technique that helps many of my clients is to take your thumb and index finger on one hand and press them together with medium pressure.Do it for a minute or an hour, whatever works for you.The truth is that shyness isn’t a turn-off to others, so remember that the next time you feel nervous or shy around someone new.
is a licensed clinical psychologist, author, Psychology Today blogger, and TV guest expert.
I actually find that shy individuals are some of the most interesting and dynamic people, partly because they often have more introspective personalities.