Telling a child that they can’t do something makes them prove that they can, by telling you or showing you that it is in fact possible.
Telling a kid to not do something makes them want to argue or rebel.
The former acknowledges that the child already figured out the problem, but is still comforting.
When redirecting behavior, it is difficult to know how to phrase things in the best manner.
Train yourself to acknowledge their behavior without a judgment, such as “You chose to sit the other way on the chair” or “You colored the grass purple instead”.
This gives them the freedom to be creative and discover things without expectations.
Parents tend to want control all of the time, and it takes work to allow kids to have freedom to do what they choose.
Choose whether the other person really needs to know about the issue, and if yes, let the child decide who will tell them.
“Do you choose to tell (Mom) what happened, or choose for me to tell her with you there to make sure that I explain it correctly?
If a child is coloring the grass purple, it is easy to tell them it must be green.
A kid can sit down on a chair facing the back, and we make them turn around.
It is wasted words to try to express a rule when a child is upset, as they focus on one thing at a time.