Charles Johnston is by no means the only Web porn surfer to find himself behind bars: businessmen, teachers, coaches, and even several religious leaders have been arrested for downloading child pornography from the Internet or for arranging to have sex with minors.
For many seekers of online sex, the dangers of getting caught, getting addicted, getting taken advantage of or getting in trouble with the law simply become obstacles to work around.
Once they have your name and email, they know exactly who you are and will proceed to inundate you with unsolicited messages until you shake yourself free or “succumb to their venom.” In addition to risking your reputation by leaving footprints, you also risk being ripped off. ” They know most people are too embarrassed to fight back. I e-mailed my cancellation request numerous times, but they didn’t respond.
The online porn industry has popped up in the news recently for fraud and credit scams. One man I spoke with told me he’d signed up for a 1-week free preview, supplying his credit-card number. They charged me for membership three months in a row.
Though hard data is unavailable, it is estimated that more than two thirds of ISPs keep records similar to what the cache retains.
The contents of these files have even been admitted as evidence in divorce hearings.
Soft-core pictures of women in lingerie will soon become boring and you will seek full nudity, and as that loses novelty you will look for something more enticing. Victor Cline, of the University of Utah, has studied this escalation and reports that it proceeds according to four steps. Desensitization: You begin feeling numb towards the images you see. You become desperate to feel the same thrill again, but you can’t find it.
Acting out sexually: This is the point that you make a critical jump and start acting out the images you have seen and rehearsed in your mind. Charles Taylor Johnston wasn’t looking for pornography when he stumbled onto photos of children in sexual positions in an America Online chat room.
Robert Weiss of the Sexual Recovery Institute in Los Angeles.
One porn site operator spoke truthfully about the industry when she said, “Porn comes down to this, we women are exploiting men’s weaknesses. It’s going to be embarrassing to call my credit card company, but I’ve got to do it.” Many victims of these scams simply pay up rather than fess up.
Adult web sites have also expanded beyond credit card fraud, into more legitimate means of taking your money.
Even the sex surfer who avoids these pitfalls may fail to find what they are looking for. A number of things actually—including physically walking into a sex store on the seedy side of town.
Of equal concern to the dangers of looking for sex online is the disappointment of not finding it . Ironically, the same technology that makes it possible to view porn anonymously also makes it possible to track virtual footprints.
“We’re seeing a whole population of clients who have never had a history with the problem, but for the first time, they’re beginning one particular activity and getting hooked.” The experience of sexual arousal can be adrenalized and intense when viewing pornography, and like any ‘high’ your body will crave another hit. Escalation: You start to look for more graphic pornography.