Rabbi Dov Heller is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist who holds Masters Degrees in Clinical Psychology from Antioch University and in Contemporary Theology from Harvard University. He is director of the Aish Ha Torah Counseling Center in Los Angeles, founder of the Relationship Institute, and runs a private practice specializing in adult psychotherapy, marriage counseling and personal guidance.
Most non-virgins will tell you that “you’re going to suck at first”, like a fighter with no training. You probably going to suck at sex in the beginning.
Needless to say, an abusive relationship is one where there is no trust.
The key to avoiding abuse and promoting trust is to consciously strive everyday to build a safe emotional space.
Trust is probably the most important ingredient in building an intimate relationship between husband and wife.
Trust is something that can be cultivated and nurtured if you will follow the guidelines below.
And let me say at the outset that, if you feel you are in an abusive relationship based on the definition I just gave, seek help immediately. Develop the skill of being a good listener, which is one of the hardest skills to develop. " Always make sure you've fully understood what the other person has said.