The general Narcissistic cycle goes something like this – Narcissist finds new meat, lavishes her with attention and moves really fast – he keeps former girlfriends on ice by feeding them hope and nuggets of attention and affection – the new meat loses her shine and she gets relegated to the harem – he may bounce back to an old harem member in the interim while he looks for someone new and on and on it goes.
The women he meets could be beautiful, have a great job, good friends and money in the bank. It’s never about her and it will always turn out the same way.
So if you honestly think you are going beat the odds – think again.
I’m not saying men and women can’t be ‘just’ friends, but that distinction happens only when both parties have absolutely no interest in being together. With their charm they can usually swoop any woman off their feet, but their specialty lies in their ability to keep women hanging on. Sussing out those that are overly giving, that rationalize and make excuses for other people’s bad behavior and those that the Narcissist has successfully managed down their expectations, so that they treat every little nugget of attention like a lottery winning.
This woman even knew that he was dating other women and was willing at all costs to still have him in her life.
Somewhere in the back of our minds, in some crazy rationale we tell ourselves things like, “oh he’ll date someone else and then realize how much better he had it with me and he’ll come back.” That might be true in the short term, but by showing him that you’ll put up with him dating other women, he’ll do just that and then come back when that doesn’t work out and then leave again…all the while you are on an emotional rollercoaster never knowing where you stand or when he’s coming or going.
She was so ready and willing to sell herself short, just to have a piece of him – any piece.
His actions at best are showing you that he has a massive fear of commitment and that he can’t make up his mind whether to stay or go.
Savannah Grey is a Freelance Writer, a Hypnotherapist, Consultant, Sports Fanatic, and Philosopher and has a degree in Psychology.
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Narcissists, in the same way don’t like to throw away the people they’ve collected.
Both are pathological, unhealthy and dysfunctional. A Narcissist will offer up friendship after he has screwed you around for the 100th time, but what he’s really offering is a membership to his harem.
A Narcissist requires excessive amounts of attention and admiration.