So this battle is already lost -- if you go into it with the mindset that she's so great (do you really know that?
) and somehow you must have her because she's cute and 'there for the taking.' I would recommend going out with a few other women or just speaking to this one with the aim of finding out who she is (vs impressing her, or trying to pull off some trick to 'get' her).
Do you see scarcity, lack and limitation around you, or wealth, possibility and abundance?
The mindset you choose bears directly upon the success of your love life (and your success in general). "all the good ones are taken" - begets neediness, and neediness is not attractive.
Strength is great, but remember that femininity is what draws in the masculine. And when she finally found a guy who smarter than her, she found herself competing with him and putting him down out of insecurity, thereby driving him away. So much pain in dating is self-inflicted and has to do with upholding our own importance or appeasing the ego.
Therefore I will state here without proof that there is no greater waste of your energy than upholding your own importance. The Buddhists have this nifty concept called , or no-self.
It basically means that nothing in the universe has a fixed identity - especially you.
If you're breathing and have a heartbeat and just read this phrase, billions of things changed in your mind and body ago.
Seems to me that without really having spoken to this woman, you have already built her up far too much.Big-heartedness and self-sufficiency, on the other hand, work much better. 'Enlightened' means that you make decisions by considering the long-term consequences of your actions. "I know he's a bad boy, but it'll be so much welfare takes priority, just like in the pre-flight announcement where they say put on your own oxygen mask first, then help others in the case of an emergency. We see this in nature: water runs from high to low; electricity flows between cathode and anode; magnetic force goes between north and south poles. Without polarity, relationships fall flat, whether in heterosexual or same-sex couples: has to wear the pants.