But I digress…) Another issue that women often face when it comes to being the one to make the first move: they often don’t know how Just ask my friend Arden Leigh, whose job is all about teaching women how to embrace their inner Catwoman and find the relationship they’ve been looking for. Let’s not forget, if it was so easy for people to just make the first move and meet awesome single people, Match wouldn’t exist, Cosmo would lose half its pages and I wouldn’t have a job.
Now, one of the things I’ve mentioned before is that women have more of a societally accepted support system for getting better at dating than men do (a reason why I write this blog).
have the specter of generations of socialization and gender roles that says “men don’t like girls who are too forward” and “if you make the first move, they’ll think you’re a slut” being dropped on top of that like a 400 lb weight on a balloon full of shit.
And recognizing that fact just makes it even But as it turns out, women have a good reason to be extra nervous about flaunting gender roles because…
It’s about Whether or not you agree that those issues are valid is ultimately irrelevant; the fact of the matter is that these are the pressures that women feel that discourage them from being more proactive on the dating scene.
The best research confirms it: Americans are now perilously isolated.
One of the benefits of being approached, rather than being the approacher, is that you have more time to get a read on somebody.
The manner in which they approach you tells you a When you’re making the approach, unless you’ve been scoping them for a while, you’ve got considerably less info to work with.
More often than not the way women approach men they’re interested in doesn’t match up with how they picture the approach going.Let’s be honest: if every time a man approached a woman there was a not-insignificant chance that she was actually a gorgon, men would be a lot less likely to approach strangers. for the exact same reasons a lot of socially awkward guys don’t, but with the added benefit of social expectations working against them.